Just one

There were two foster kids in the waiting room at court the other day. They were sitting next to me with an investigator and caseworker. The boy was 7 and the girl was 2. She stayed right at her brother’s hip the entire time and although she would look me in the eye, she never smiled or even changed expressions. Obviously, they had just been brought into care since they were there for a probable cause hearing. The investigator quizzed the boy about whether he had ever ‘brought his mom anything to smoke’ or ‘seen her smoke anything’. The receptionist asked him how old he was and if he had enjoyed the snow. He told her he had enjoyed it, but he wasn’t allowed to go outside to play in it. His little sister held onto his pant leg with one hand and clung to her doll with the other. Before they were called in to court, an announcement was made that their court appearance was canceled. The investigator was clearly unhappy, but gathered her little group together and off they went.

This scene happens thousands of times a week in courtrooms all across this country. There are haunting statistics about how many kids come in and out of foster care in a given year, and yet the majority of people would gasp at what innocent children have to go through in the world of foster care. I thought about these two. What must be going through their little minds- ripped from their home by strangers, taken to a ‘new’ home to live with strangers, changing schools and daycare, and then being taken out of school to go to a courthouse filled with metal detectors and police officers and strange people asking you strange questions in a room full of strangers. It is just not normal- and it is depressing and discouraging. My heart broke for them.

When we look at the big picture-that there are over 500,000 kids in foster care in the United States-it is a daunting task…an impossible one. I really do think the Lord would have us see the big picture, to catch a vision for the impossible. But, today, as foster parents, I think He would have us see our little corner of the picture; just one piece of the puzzle, the child or children that He has called us to care for. He has chosen to use us, you and me, to make a difference. He has given us the grace and mercy and love to take children into our homes and more important, into our hearts, and pour into their precious lives. My friend, through His power, we CAN make a difference! We can be the conduit for a changed life. We have the honor of taking a little shriveled up seed and through the watering of God’s love and restoration flowing through us, see that seed germinate and bloom into a beautiful, unique flower. What a gift, what an honor, what a vocation, what a calling.

So, today, in the midst of dirty diapers, temper tantrums, violent outbursts, educational challenges, bad attitudes, exhaustion and discouragement, remember that you are about an important work, you are about the Father’s business and HE will give you the strength you need to carry the burden and to carry out the tasks He has entrusted to you. Not only will foster children be changed, but you and I will be changed as well. Love and blessings today!

Published in: on January 14, 2011 at 9:41 am  Comments (8)  

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  1. Thanks for the post!!I really needed this reminder, as I am fostering a special needs child for the first time and feel overwhelmed some days:)

  2. Christie,

    What a beautiful word of encouragement! Not only for Middle Moms, but for moms of biological and adopted children, as well. Thank you for such incredible words of wisdom.


  3. Christie, this reminds me of a book called The One Factor by Doug Sauder. He came to Oregon and spoke at an adoption/Heart Gallery event and he was so great. He lives in Florida. A great read that backs up exactly what you say. We are only one, BUT we are one and we can do what we can do. 🙂

  4. Yes… so many don’t realize that there is so much more trauma for these kids than the act of being taken from their parents.. the trauma seems to go on, and on, and on…

    I love what you said about focusing on “our little corner.” When I think of the big picture for our foster sons it overwhelms me. It’s all I can do to make it each day is focus on our home, our lives together, and what we’ll do tomorrow. I think you hit the nail on the head!

  5. I am still rocking even though our new foster child is in bed now after a long time crying in my arms as she missed her mom. She was so tired and scared as she only arrived a few hours ago having had no idea what was happening to her and having no control. Thank you for your wise words which remind us to look up when we feel like falling down:)

  6. I think it is important for everyone to do a little to make a difference in the life of a child.

  7. whoa! That’s some heavy stuff for an early morning! Thank you so much. Please be in prayer for us, we are praying about opening our house up again. I think we are ready but I just want to make sure we aren’t rushing it yet.

  8. I love your words of encouragement. I went to a permanency hearing this week. The mom is given 60 more days to do drastic things that she hasn’t done in 16 months. I sat and prayed HARD (knowing my sister/brother prayer warriors were too) that God would give the judge wisdom, bring the mom to salvation and protect “my” child and all of the others out there. For everytime my heart breaks for children and broken families, my Father gives me strength to endure, somehow. Thanks for making a difference and encouraging!

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