I am grateful for the three of you who commented on how you felt about your parents fostering as you were growing up. I also hurt for you-at the negative impact fostering had on your lives and I can only imagine the confusion and hurt it has caused. It really has opened my eyes to another view of this important ministry and the fact that the experience my kids have had (fostering mostly younger kids- other than one 11 year old) is not necessarily the norm. I want to go a little deeper with you guys if you don’t mind-just so I (and other foster parents) will have a reference point for your point of view.
1. What specifically caused you to have a negative experience with your family fostering?
2. What (if anything) could your parents have done differently that would have made the experience more positive or different?
3. Did your parents include you in the decision making and discussions about the children you took into your home or would take? And did your parents listen if you had a concern, complaint or fear?
4. Did you feel a bias against you and towards the foster kids?
5. Did you feel neglected?
6. Why did your parents choose to foster? (a calling, social need, money?)
I want to hear from you! I think it is important for those of us who are fostering to hear from you! If you don’t feel comfortable posting here, would you email me at themiddlemom@gmail.com- you don’t even have to put your name and I’ll consolidate the answers and put them here. 
My heart goes out to you guys, and I am so sorry for the disruption you have had in your lives as a result of foster care. May God bless you, encourage you and guide you in all that you do.
I had sarted a post on this topic and NE er hot around to finishing it. My children, like yours, have had a mostly positive experience. On breaks they are always waiting for their next brother or sister. We have also fostered younger children but even then it doesn’t come without eye opening and difficult behaviors to walk through.
It will be very insightful hearing from others. Thanks for the great post!
Thank you for starting this discussion…I am 28 years old with two kids ages 1 and 3 and I really feel like God is laying it on my heart to go into foster care, however nobody in my family has ever done anything like this before and they’re all very concerned with how it could/would effect our children… Were you all ever concerned with the safety of your children? I know these kids are coming out of bad situations and can obviously have behavior issues due to this… Also, knowing what you know now – should I wait until my kids are a little older, or do you think it matters? Love your blog! God bless!!
Thank you for reaching out! I will take sometime to think through my responses to these questions and email you in the near future.
As an adult I have had a hard time finding others who relate to my story – this conversation is just not happening! I look forward to what is discovered and what supportive relationships can be made.
I think this is so important and certainly should not be taken lightly or overlooked! Your willingness to share your story could really make a difference for those of us who are fostering and maybe have not thought about your point of view. I am grateful for your openness and thankful that you commented!
Love and blessings, Christie 